A Late-Life Marriage in Mississauga, Done the Right Way

The situation

Kajan was 73, a retired university professor, and had been widowed for four years. Camila was 68, a retired physiotherapist, widowed for six. They met through a seniors' hiking group in Mississauga and were together for about eighteen months before Kajan told his adult son, Senthil, that they planned to marry.

Senthil's reaction was not opposition to Camila personally. It was fear. He had read news stories about older adults who married quickly, changed their wills, and left children shut out of estates they had expected to inherit. Kajan owned a home worth roughly $950,000, held retirement investments and a pension worth several hundred thousand dollars more, and had an existing will that left everything to Senthil and his sister. Camila had her own condominium, a smaller pension, and modest savings. Combined, the two estates were worth roughly $1.8 million.

Rather than let the disagreement fester, Kajan suggested they get legal advice together, with Senthil in the loop, before the wedding. That is how the couple came to Treadstone Law — not because anything had gone wrong, but because they wanted to make sure it could not.

What worried the family — and what the law actually says

The term "predatory marriage" is not a formal legal category in Ontario, but it describes a real and recognized problem: someone marries a person who lacks the mental capacity to understand what marriage means, or who is isolated and vulnerable, in order to gain access to that person's assets. Courts have set aside marriages and estate gifts where capacity was genuinely absent or where undue influence was proven. But the label gets applied far more often than the problem actually exists, and it was clear within the first meeting that this was not that situation. Kajan was mentally sharp, financially literate, and the one who had raised the idea of getting advice in the first place.

Even so, two features of Ontario law made the family's caution reasonable rather than paranoid. First, until a 2022 change to the Succession Law Reform Act, getting married automatically cancelled a person's existing will unless that will was made specifically in contemplation of the marriage. That rule no longer applies — a will made before a marriage now generally survives it — but many people, including Senthil, still believed the old rule was in effect, and worried a wedding would silently wipe out his father's will. Second, and still very much the law, a surviving spouse in Ontario has a right under the Family Law Act to choose, after their spouse dies, between taking what the will gives them or claiming an equalization of net family property instead — essentially a share of the financial gains each spouse made during the marriage. That right exists automatically once two people marry, regardless of what either person's will says, unless the couple has a marriage contract that addresses it.

So the real risk was not that Kajan's will would evaporate the moment he said "I do." It was that, without a marriage contract, a new marriage would create a financial claim neither Kajan nor Camila had thought through, layered on top of two existing sets of wishes for two existing families.

What we did

1. Recommended each of them retain a separate lawyer. A marriage contract negotiated by one lawyer for both spouses is far more likely to be challenged later as unfair or improperly obtained. Kajan and Camila each needed their own lawyer giving them independent legal advice, so that if the contract was ever questioned, both could show they understood it and were not pressured.
2. Exchanged full financial disclosure before drafting anything. A marriage contract that later turns out to be based on incomplete financial information is vulnerable to being set aside. Both parties provided a full accounting of their assets, debts, pensions and expected inheritances, attached as schedules to the contract itself.
3. Built the marriage contract around what each spouse actually wanted to protect. Kajan wanted his home and investment accounts to eventually pass to his two children. Camila wanted the same for her own family, plus reasonable support from Kajan if he predeceased her, since her pension alone would not cover their shared cost of living. The contract opted the couple out of the standard equalization of net family property on death, while separately setting out what each spouse would leave the other during their lifetime through savings held jointly for household expenses.
4. Updated both wills to match the contract exactly. A marriage contract and a will that contradict each other are an invitation to litigation. Kajan's new will left his home and investments to his children, with a modest specific gift to Camila and a right for her to remain in the home for a set period if she survived him. Camila's new will mirrored the arrangement in reverse for her own family.
5. Discussed the plan with Senthil, with the couple's consent. Kajan and Camila chose to have a short meeting where the broad shape of the arrangement — not the private financial details — was explained to Senthil directly. Family members are never required to be involved in this kind of planning, and many couples prefer privacy. Here, transparency was the couple's own choice, and it did more to defuse the family's concern than any document could have.

The outcome

Kajan and Camila married about four months after their first meeting with a lawyer — not rushed, but not delayed either, since the legal work moved in parallel with the wedding planning. The marriage contract was signed by both spouses, each advised separately, with full financial disclosure attached. Both wills were updated to match it. Senthil, who had arrived at the first conversation genuinely worried, left the family meeting satisfied that his father's estate would still reach him and his sister largely as planned, and that Camila's own family had an equivalent arrangement protecting them.

The whole process, from the first meeting to signed documents, took a little over three months and involved real cost and real conversations neither spouse particularly enjoyed — disclosing account balances to a new partner's lawyer, discussing what happens if one of them needs long-term care, deciding how a jointly held household account would be split if the marriage ended. None of that is comfortable at any age, and it is often harder, not easier, later in life when both spouses already have grown families and settled routines. Kajan and Camila did it anyway, and said afterward that the process itself — being asked direct questions by an independent lawyer, in front of full disclosure — was more reassuring than any conversation they could have had informally.

Nothing about this process eliminated risk entirely — a marriage contract can still be challenged years later if someone argues it was signed without real understanding, and no document can fully substitute for an ongoing, trusting relationship between a parent and adult child. But by doing the legal work before the wedding rather than after a dispute arose, the couple built a paper record that would be very difficult to characterize as predatory: separate lawyers, full disclosure, a documented meeting with concerned family, and wills that lined up with the contract rather than contradicting it. That is close to the strongest evidentiary position available under Ontario law, and it is close to the reverse of how predatory marriages typically unfold, which usually involve secrecy, isolation and rushed, one-sided documents rather than independent advice on both sides.

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